If you have only one smile in you give it to the people you love. - Maya Angelou
What is love? This is what I read about love from a post in Quora:
* Love is a man's futile attempt to see through 2inch thick fiber glass, to have a look at his mother who he'll not be able to see for a long time, as the train sets off from the platform.
* Love is about two friends who grow old together. They have aged together, lived their days of sorrow together.
* Love is when your puppy licks your face even after you left him alone all day.
* Love is like a little old woman and a little old man who are still friends even after they know each other so well.
Love may have many definitions but the emotion is same. The emotion of showing care, concern and appreciation for the people who are close to your heart. You adore them; you pamper them; you think about them; you are happy with them.
That is why it feels good when you have a day that is commemorated the world over in the spirit of this beautiful emotion called love.
Yes, I am talking about Valentine's Day. Celebrated every year on February 14th, it is the time for young at heart individuals and couples to express their love to someone special by doing activities that are joyous, memorable and romantic.
It is especially a big deal for young couples – they go on a date, exchange gifts and flowers, watch a movie together, and do so many other interesting activities.
One such amazing couple that I know of is my colleague Aman Khetarpal and his wife Vasavi Sinha Khetarpal. Aman works with us at Soulful Collection as a senior copywriter. Married in November last year, the duo were in a relationship with each other for past 5 years.
Vasavi (L) and Aman
Few days ago, Aman and I were philosophizing the concept of love and Valentine's Day. During our chat, he told me that Vasavi's birthday too falls on February 14! He further said they have always celebrated this occasion in an interesting manner every year.
Wanna know what they did on the special day in some of those years? I asked Aman to write it down for our viewers. This is what he wrote:
Hi guys! Won't take much of your time. So here I go – super fun things that you guys can do on Valentine's Day this year:
1. A Relaxing Massage
In 2009, when we first started seeing each other, I never knew that one day Vasavi will become my wife. Yet, at that time, I had sensed the fact that there is something sparkling in our chemistry. We were bound to be together, as I had found us to be very compatible with each other.
Anyway, come New Year 2010, and I had started thinking about the big day for the birthday girl. At that time, I was not planning on doing something extra or special for her at all (she would kill me now if she reads this!). I was just trying to buy a nice gift for her through online shopping websites.
Randomly, I chanced upon the Groupon website. There was this exclusive Valentine's Day couple package for a full body massage. I lapped it up. And what a memorable experience it was!
Everything was pitch perfect - whether it was the soothing background music, dim-lit surrounding, fragrant aromatic candles or the oh-so-pleasurable massage itself.
Vasavi was simply floored; she said it was the best birthday gift/romantic idea to her. We came out of the center with a luscious glow on our faces and a tingling sensation under our skin. We then headed out to a Dunkin' Donuts outlet nearby and had a lavish dinner.
2. Day-Long Meditation Sessions
The art and science of meditation are extremely beneficial for couples in today's times. Filled with reaction, negativity, fear, suffering, insecurity, jealousy and subconscious knack for finding faults, individuals these days in relationships are harming both themselves and their partners.
Thus, in 2011, in order to instill the virtues of love, compassion, trust and the state of being aware in every moment, I proposed to her that we attend a one-day Vipassana meditation camp which was being held in our city during that time.
At first, she felt reluctant, quite naturally. However, gracious and understanding that she is, she eventually consented for this different experience. She figured it out that this was being done out of my love for her.
Turns out, she was completely in the zone after an hour or so. No back pain or discomfort stopped her from realizing the true benefits of meditation in a relationship. She felt like a new person thereon. The benefits were immense, both emotionally, physically and mentally.
For those who don't have a meditation center nearby, they can practice the technique in their home (check out YouTube videos to know more). Yoga sessions and spiritual discourses are other interesting methods for the betterment of relationships.
Since then, she has attended several 10-day Vipassana courses. Cool, isn't it?
3. A Getaway Trip
Traveling is one of the most beautiful experiences of a relationship. The joy of seeing stunning locales, eating lavish food, doing adventurous activities, those long car drives, roaming around a new city with your leather messenger bag ... it's a fun feeling that cannot be described in words.
So in 2012, we went to Jaisalmer (one of the most beautiful and romantic cities in India) to celebrate the Valentine's Day and her birthday. The magical sand dunes of the Thar desert, romantic camel ride, and the amazing tent hotels and desert camps - it was something else.
Sure, it was expensive but completely worth it. Again, money isn't important; just take your girl out for a quick fun holiday. That'll do.
Thus, these were some of the interesting things that Vasavi and I did on Valentine's Day/her birthday.
Then there was 2013, when we did the usual things too, like going on a date all dressed up, watching movies, etc.
Even otherwise, we frequently go out to picnics, sing and dance on YouTube videos songs, make food for each other, and do lots of other fun-filled activities. It helps us remain bonded and stress-free.
For all young couples out there - whatever you do, just have fun and make each other happy.
Oh, and btw, did I forgot to tell you that on Valentine's day last year (2014), I got engaged to her?
Yup, one of the better things you can do to express your love, boys!
And so, Vasavi and I lived happily ever after :)
So that was Aman, talking about a bit of his relationship story and how those guys celebrated Valentine's Day.
What are you planning to do this year? Any special plans? Lemme know by commenting below.
We are most alive when we're in love - John Updike
As always, keep loving.